this happened to me. then i found the best doctor, a man actually, and i was with him for 20 years. he just retired and this was the first year i found someone new and it felt, like you said, transactional. and i felt hurt by it. and sad for what i had lost in a doctor that felt like a friend. someone with compassion who saw me, the whole woman. not just 'the body part that is next in line." so, thanks for writing this.